Who taught you? Who told you?

Who taught you? Who told you? 
Where along the way did you learn to treat women like this? Where did you learn to avoid letting your guard down and withhold your deep parts only to replace it with flowers and flattery? Who taught you that it's acceptable to make relationships all about getting what you want? Who taught you that it's ok to call the person you're supposed to love hateful names? Who turned your safe place into a mine field? 

Who taught you? Who told you? 
Who showed you that avoidance and violence could be forgiven with platitudes? Who showed you that kindness is weakness? Who showed you that strength is arrogance and ego? Who showed you that you should only do nice things for others because of how it makes you feel? Who showed you that it is a woman's job was to feed your ego, and your job was to convince them not to expect anything in return?

Who taught you? Who told you? 
Who made you so afraid of real love? Who told you that you could love me without touching my heart? Who told you that I was only to be loved and admired from afar? Who told you that my pain and brokenness were separate from my beauty and mystery? 

Who taught you? Who told you? 
Who told you that love was about grinning and bearing your way through every moment, but it didn't require change and effort and submission to the force of becoming a better person? Who told you that I wasn't worth any of that?

Who taught you? Who told you? 
Who molded your heart to be so withholding and cold? Who taught you to cover it up? Who taught you that love was about distracting me from your own heart? Who taught you that love was cold and fights were to be avoided and relationships are about ego and fear? 

Who taught you? Who told you? Because I feel as sorry for them as I do for you.